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How to actually apologize as an ally if your old shit catches up to you.
Reblogged from dansphalluspalace
Alright so I found this on tumblr notes.
Alright, a friend of mine linked me to this, and I’m going to have to respond to it because, well, there’s a fair bit that bother me about it.
Hey! Okay. So, I’m a person who has done plenty of fuck ups. Plenty.
Trust me.
And I learned how to be mature, and learn from my experience.
So I want to tell you allies how to actually respond maturely to being called out and finding out you have a video or post back in the day that oooo wow yea not so cool.
See, this sounds like a good idea. A basic 101 of “how to apologize without being a dick about it” is something a lot of people need.
One: Address said post/video. Do not sugarcoat it, just simply say “Yes, I see I was racist/transphobic/cissexist/etc. in this. I was younger, and this post/video/etc. was from a time that I did not know. That doesn’t excuse it, so let me address my younger self.”
Starts out as common sense.
The only way to apologize for being “wrong” is to start by admitting you were wrong without trying to make it seem you weren’t wrong….
However, being wrong, naive, simple, uninformed, and ignorant, doesn’t necessarily mean you’re a bigoted person,I stopped right there.
Because yes, you can be bigoted and be completely unaware of it.
Thus, naive.
Thank you come again.
Yes, you “can” be bigoted and completely unaware of it, but that doesn’t mean that being naive, simple, uninformed, ignorant and wrong makes you automatically and without exception “a bigot”.
One one thing does not automatically mean the other.
